Many educational developers and the people we support are running low on resilience reserves amidst concurrent, prolonged crises and traumas. We zoom between meetings, despite the increased cognitive-emotional labor the virtual context exacts. We facilitate programs to help people adopt resilient pedagogy, leadership, and personal practices. Often we/they show up physically but aren't really there mentally or emotionally. This session draws upon three facilitators' expertise in diversity, equity, inclusion, grief, narrative, and coaching. They will lead participants in rethinking expectations (of themselves and others) and applying a trauma-informed ethic of care approach for planning more inclusive resilience programming.